Parenting Teenage Boys (Emotional). Though teenage girls get angry from time to time, they are better able to process emotions than boys. They can also more easily talk through how they are feeling, which means parents can deal with them more effectively than boys.
In contrast, boys experience testosterone surges which reduce feelings of fear and encourages them to engage in dangerous behaviours. This can be challenging during the process of parenting teenage boys (emotional).
Structure Rather than Trust is Essential When Parenting Teenage Boys (Emotional)
When parenting teenage boys (emotional), offer them structure by always knowing where they are and what they are doing. Although they may accuse you of not trusting them, hold your ground. You need to work out how well they can navigate a potentially dangerous world with a pre-frontal cortex that is still developing.
Before your teenage son reaches the age of eighteen, areas of regulation and judgement aren’t fully developed in their brain. This means your son can’t always see the consequences of his behaviour, making him more likely to engage in reckless or impulsive acts.
Focus on Long Term Wellbeing Rather than Immediate Trust
You need to teach your teenage son several things. The first is to encourage him to become a central part of the family and potentially to volunteer in the community. You will also need to teach him about respecting the rights and property of others and how to manage money properly.
Boys don’t process auditory signals as well as girls, which means they cannot always interpret the true meaning of what you’re trying to say.
How to Get Your Message Across Effectively to Your Teenage Son
- Use a combination of touch and eye contact. Using two senses is more effective than just one.
- Ask him to repeat what you’ve just said to clarify he has taken it in.
- Don’t lecture. Instead, use short sentences and allow him to respond before moving on.
For other tips on how to talk so your teen will listen, take a look at this post.